• Rubber banding is a term used to describe the behavior of commitment phobes who pull away and then come back.
– It’s like playing with a yo-yo, but instead of it being fun, you’re left feeling confused and frustrated.
– One minute they’re all over you, showering you with love and affection, and the next minute they disappear into thin air.
• It’s called rubber banding because it feels like they are stretching out and then snapping back into place.
– Think of it as if your partner is trying to launch themselves off into space only to snap right back down to earth again.
– You might feel like an elastic band that keeps getting pulled tighter until eventually something snaps!
• Commitment phobes often use rubber banding as a way to test their partner’s feelings for them.
– They want reassurance that their partners will stick around even when things get tough or uncertain.
– This can be incredibly frustrating for those on the receiving end since no one wants to constantly prove their loyalty in a relationship.
• They may also do it because they feel overwhelmed by intimacy or afraid of being trapped in a relationship.
– The thought of spending every day together forevermore can seem daunting even for people without commitment issues!
– But for someone dealing with this fear, sometimes running away seems easier than facing up to what scares them.
• Rubber banding can be confusing and hurtful for the person on the receiving end, causing them to question whether their partner really cares about them.
– “Do they actually care about me?” “Am I not enough?” These questions run through our minds after each time we’ve been stretched too far before being snapped back.
– It’s hard not knowing where you stand with someone; especially when there isn’t any clear communication from your partner.
• Some experts believe that rubber banding is actually a sign that the commitment phobe does want to commit but is struggling with fear or anxiety around relationships.
– It’s like they’re trying to dip their toes into the water without fully committing to jumping in.
– They may need some time and space, but it doesn’t mean they don’t care about you.
• Others argue that it’s just another form of avoidance, allowing the commitment phobe to enjoy all the benefits of a relationship without having to fully invest themselves emotionally.
– “Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?” This old saying might apply here as well!
– Rubber banding allows them to have fun while avoiding any real emotional investment.
• Rubber banding can be triggered by various factors such as stress, fear of abandonment, or past relationship trauma.
– Sometimes our fears come from things we’ve experienced before; whether it was growing up or previous partners who hurt us.
– These triggers can cause people with commitment issues to run away at even minor signs of trouble.
• Commitment phobes may also use rubber banding to maintain a sense of control in the relationship and avoid feeling vulnerable.
– If someone else has power over your emotions then they could hurt you right? So why not keep them guessing?
– By pulling back every once in a while, this person feels more secure knowing that they are still holding most of the cards.
• The cycle of pulling away and coming back can create an emotional rollercoaster for both partners involved.
– One minute everything seems great and next thing you know there’s distance between you two again!
– You never really know what mood your partner will be in which makes being comfortable around each other difficult!
• Partners of commitment-phobes often struggle with feelings of insecurity and uncertainty due to their partner’s inconsistent behavior
– When one day he/she is all over you and the next day they disappear it can be hard to know what’s going on in their head.
– You may start wondering if there’s something wrong with you or if your partner is just not into you anymore.
• It is possible for commitment phobes to overcome their fears and develop healthy relationships through therapy, self-reflection, and communication with their partners.
– With some work and dedication, a person who has struggled with commitment issues can learn how to open up emotionally.
– This requires facing some uncomfortable truths about themselves that might have been holding them back from fully committing before.
• However, it requires willingness on the part of the commitment-phobe to face their fears head-on rather than relying on avoidance tactics like rubber banding.
– In order for things to change someone needs to take action! If this sounds like something you’re dealing with then maybe it’s time for some soul searching!
– While rubber banding may seem easier at first glance; ultimately it will only lead down a path of uncertainty leaving both parties feeling hurt!
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