• Your ex has a history of short-term relationships. Maybe your ex just loves variety like they love trying out new ice cream flavors, or maybe they’re afraid to stick around long enough for things to get serious.
• They would often avoid talking about the future or making long-term plans. Perhaps your ex is living in the moment and doesn’t want to jinx anything by planning too far ahead, or maybe commitment feels like an anchor weighing them down.
• Your ex may have expressed fear or anxiety around commitment in past conversations. It’s possible that your ex has been burned before and is hesitant to put themselves through that kind of pain again, but it could also be a sign of deeper emotional issues.
• They might have been hesitant to introduce you to their family and friends, which could indicate a fear of getting too serious. Either way, if you’ve never met any of their loved ones after dating for months, there’s probably something fishy going on.
• Your ex may have ended things abruptly without clear reasoning, possibly due to discomfort with committing. Sometimes people are just jerks who don’t know how to communicate properly when ending things (looking at you Chad), but other times it can be because they’re scared sh*tless about what comes next.
• They might also be avoiding communication after the breakup as a way to distance themselves from any potential for reconciliation or further commitment. If you find yourself constantly reaching out only for crickets in response…well let’s just say it ain’t looking good my friend.
• Your ex may have a pattern of being emotionally unavailable or distant in relationships – ouch! This one stings but sometimes people just aren’t ready for all those feelings yet (cue Spongebob “Ight Imma head out”).
•They might have expressed concerns about losing their freedom or independence if they were commiting someone long term – we all need our space right? But some folks really value their independence and might be hesitant to give that up for someone else.
• Your ex could be avoiding discussing the future altogether, including topics like marriage and children. Maybe they’re just not ready to think about all of that yet or maybe they’ve seen too many rom-coms where people freak out at the mere mention of those words.
• They may have had difficulty compromising or making sacrifices for the relationship, which can indicate fear of commitment – sometimes it’s hard to put another person before yourself but in a healthy relationship you gotta learn how to do both!
• If your ex has cheated on you in the past, it could be due to an underlying discomfort with monogamy and commitment – let’s hope this isn’t why things didn’t work out between y’all because cheating is never ok (unless we’re talking about board games then by all means cheat away).
•Your ex might also avoid labeling the relationship as exclusive or official out of fear that it will lead to more expectations and pressure- well if they don’t want any labels then hand them a jar full of pickles because clearly they love things without labels!
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