• INFJ individuals are known for their deep emotions and intense connections with others.
INFJs feel things very deeply, which can make them incredibly loving partners. However, this also means that they may be more sensitive to rejection or heartbreak than other personality types. It’s like having a superpower – you can love harder than anyone else but it comes at the cost of being vulnerable to pain.
• However, some INFJs may struggle with commitment due to fear of being hurt or rejected.
This fear is totally understandable – no one wants to put themselves in a position where they could get hurt. But sometimes you have to take risks if you want something great. And as an INFJ, your ability to connect deeply with people means that when you find someone who really gets you, it’s worth fighting through the fear of getting hurt.
• This fear can be rooted in past experiences or a general sense of vulnerability.
Maybe someone broke your heart before and now you’re scared it will happen again. Or maybe you just don’t like feeling out of control in any situation (we see you fellow perfectionists). Whatever the cause, acknowledging where the fear comes from is an important step towards overcoming it.
• INFJs may also have high standards for themselves and their partners, leading them to second-guess relationships that don’t meet those expectations.
As an INFJ, your intuition tells you what feels right and what doesn’t. You know exactly what kind of partner would complement your strengths and weaknesses perfectly. But remember that no one is perfect! Sometimes we need to adjust our expectations so we don’t miss out on something good because we were looking for something “perfect”.
• It’s important for INFJs to work through these fears and communicate openly with their partner about their needs and concerns.
Communication is key! Your partner isn’t going to know how much they mean to you unless you tell them (even though as an INFJ you probably think they should just know). And by being open about your fears, you give them the opportunity to support and reassure you.
• Therapy or counseling can be helpful in addressing commitment issues.
There’s no shame in seeking help! Sometimes we need an objective third party to help us work through our feelings. Plus, therapy is a great way for INFJs to get some alone time without feeling guilty (we all need that sometimes).
• Ultimately, each individual is unique and there is no one-size-fits-all solution when it comes to overcoming commitment phobia.
You are special and wonderful just the way you are! There’s no right or wrong way to approach relationships – as long as both partners feel loved and respected. So don’t compare yourself to others or worry too much about what society says “should” happen in a relationship.
• INFJs may struggle with commitment because they fear losing their sense of independence and autonomy.
Being independent doesn’t mean you have to be alone forever! You can still maintain your own interests while also sharing experiences with someone else. In fact, having a supportive partner could even enhance your personal growth journey!
• They may also be hesitant to commit if they feel like the relationship is moving too fast or not progressing naturally.
Slow down cowboy/girl/unicorn! Relationships take time and effort – rushing into things isn’t always the best idea. But remember that progress looks different for everyone – trust your intuition on whether something feels natural or forced.
• If an INFJ does decide to commit, they tend to take the relationship very seriously and will work hard to maintain it.
When an INFJ commits, they COMMIT (and yes we’re using caps lock here). Your loyalty knows no bounds once you’ve decided someone deserves it. Just make sure that person values your dedication equally otherwise… *cue dramatic exit*
• However, if the relationship becomes unfulfilling or stifling, an INFJ may have difficulty ending it due to feelings of guilt or obligation.
INFJs care deeply about the people in their lives and don’t want to hurt anyone. But sometimes we need to put our own needs first – you can’t pour from an empty cup! If a relationship isn’t making you happy anymore, it’s okay to end things (gently) and move on.
• It’s important for INFJs who struggle with commitment phobia to practice self-care and prioritize their own needs in relationships.
You are just as deserving of love and happiness as anyone else! Don’t forget that taking care of yourself is essential if you want to be able to give your best self in a relationship. So go ahead, take that bubble bath or binge-watch Netflix by yourself without feeling guilty.
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